Is it harder to hold onto something or to let go…
November 7th, 2007 by shinzu
All of us in some point of life have reached some critical juncture where we have to make a decision. And often that decision involves whether to hold onto something or to let it go. I’ll use an example close to my heart today, and that is love.
A lot of our views of love come a lot from Hollywood. This type of love involves the ultimate sacrifice, and doing everything you can to get that fairytale ending. Dropping everything you do or the one you love will walk out of your life.
My question is if there is a limit where this type of thinking is impractical. Basically saying there is a practical aspect or realistic assessment of reality factoring into love. Sometimes when you hold on to something, I can’t explain it, but sometimes it doesn’t feel.. natural. It is like if you are fighting so much for it, is it really meant to be? Should it be dropped?
Or am I wrong. Should love be followed all the way through the end no matter what the circumstances? Are you supposed to fight all the way?
Lately, I’ve thought about the statement ‘is it harder to hold onto something, or let it go.’ I think it is harder to let it go. Letting things go imply an acknowledgment of reality and a period of moving on.
I have to further add letting go is damn hard. It is a separation emotionally and physically from someone. Things that you are used to doing, your routine, going out, someone to hold…
My view, and I’m not qualifying with a right or wrong, that is if the realistic assessment is too much to handle, maybe if you really love that other person, you would let him (or her) go. That holding on to that other person can actually hurt them on the long run.
I think throughout life things will always be gray in this area. I don’t think there is a guidebook to tell us when you should fight for your life for something, versus moving on. I guess sometimes you’ll just have to use your gut instinct on matters like that.
I’ll miss you. And a part of you will always be with me no matter what…
Hi, it’s probably been a while since we communicated through downelink last time. I accidentally saw your blog, and decided to leave a note.
In my opinion, it is really hard to answer what’s right and wrong when it comes to love. But if you really have something you wanna keep, you shouldn’t give up easily or let it go away. Coz in this cold reality, you need these ambiguous but certain things: true love, faith, and stability.